Saturday, November 26, 2016

November 20, 2016

How do your view yourself. A participant in your life or an outsider looking into your living moments.  Do you equate living with posting your life for all to see as an extension of who you are or who you want to be?  Is being viewed by others, the real manipulation of our growing shallow presence.

The image trend I see is for quick pics and quicker posts. This is not photography in a real sense of the word. It is becoming a life sentence of performances, your life is a screen play, a story board of inconsequential moments that have dried up your imagination. Instead of living your life you are selling your life through make believe realities that have nothing to do with real connections with others and especially with yourself.

Do you feel posting on corporate media sites is an act of renewal of your quest to create something meaningful through focus and awareness of your surroundings and connections that are calling for your attention.

The act of posting is not a purposeful response to your moments. Commercials of ourselves have become the new reality of our lives. And we don't even get paid to produce them, we give them away. I think by that very act of giving them away you have demeaned your life as trivial and have accomplished the ultimate media scam of crowd sourcing and free material that they then can mine for your ad enjoyment. A constant beat of buy, buy and buy some more.

Social media introduced us into the entertainment and commercialization of our lives for profit motif.  Not profit for us but for the information they gather on your wants and obsession and exploit those with targeted ads of stuff you would never care about if you were living your purpose and in tune to the intended distraction that inhibit your growth towards the rewards of self sufficiency and your true voice, your calling.

Corporate media's feel good moments and then quickly back to an over abundance of violence and suspicions that crime is always lurking in you present moments, keeps us in a circle the herd mentality.

Your precious moments are now overwhelmed with the fears that corporate media bombard you with every second of the day.  Is this a means to militarize the police under our noses to inhibit the true voices to surface?

Social media is undermining unique individual perceptions that flow naturally between nature and an open mind. Our differences are being homogenized into structured imitations.  Our images are beginning to look all the same, our feelings are being surrounded by look alike ads for instructions on how we must respond to external stimulus. Our vocabulary is diminishing as we use short letters and symbols to express our "feelings" as if that can sum up a human beings moments in their time line. Symbols are the collective media presence. They reduce our inquisitive nature and teach us to live on the surface of their created reality and don't even attempt to dig deeper underneath the false facade of their wealth and power.

Relationships between me and my subject.  If we only see through organized categories we loose the ability to be open ourselves to new ways to see and live.

When creating images you must get out of your tendency of abstract specialization that deter you from connecting your internal vision with your outer presence and then with your intended subject.

Don't rush along the outskirts of image making, immerse yourself into the flow of your time and interconnectedness that brings forth a worthy unique expression that seems to magically happen when you are listing to your inner voice say, "calm down and wait, this is your place and your subject will be here presently."

We all can shoot randomly and come up with acceptable images that fit the uniformity of our costume lives.  And with that uniformity there is a growing fear to be unique in your expressions.

Connecting with purpose and clarity in this moment gives you a certainty of expression.  By being present your are opening your mind to the moment and not the description of your moments.

If you over think a subject, bringing thoughts that hinder your natural immediate response to your theme, you will miss that split second composition that ties your creativity to the image just made.

If you are not in the same playing field with your subject, there is an imbalance an untethering of willful purpose that makes your attention disconnect from the visual clues of composition.

Social media puts importance on your posts that give them information on your background for more ads and on any conversations between you and others that gives them insights on marketing strategies.  If we would use those same techniques with ourselves and begin to understand what drives us we might break free from the trap of media's corrosive analysis of our humanity. for profit only.

We have to get back to one on one conversations, be present for others just as you need to be fully engaged and present when creating images.

When you are communicating through a mechanical device you are removed from the real world. Reality now has a short sighted vision, a narrow path to follow, which excludes the environment you are in by demanding your full focus to be looking at whats on your hand held screen.

Instead of an intimate look at the small details of nature that make up our own lives we sacrifice those connections by allowing a device to become a barrier to seeing and a barrier to living a connected life in the real world of eye contact with others and your individual surroundings.

Our sense of being present, a feeling of your will of purpose will begin your journey to better photographs.

When making photos you must immerse yourself with your subjects in moments that last.  These durations build a relationship of trust.  If you allow ego to become the dominant force in this relationship then you will only express the commercial side of your mental makeup.

Photography takes time to create an image worthy of your inner being.




Sunday, November 20, 2016

November 20, 2016

Joel Meyerowitz was asked, "What do you hope for when you say the work teaches you?"

"Well, you hope that by working-working out, working toward that-you'll produce an opening, you'll stumble through your senses upon a photograph that's instructive-a doorway-something more than just beautiful, or well made, or a combination of those elements that are photographically interesting-something that you can't quite handle that posses you, something simple and visible but filled with mystery and promise-the mystery of "How did I know to make that?"- and the promise of a new understanding of photography and something about yourself."

Eternal recurrence, what a depressing shallow grave we would all live in. Recurrence of time amounts to a script from the past from which we cannot deviate from. Social media is that script.  It is not knowledge to inspire one to become more but to entertain and distant oneself from living a life of truth and purpose.

Listless knowledge giving fake myths of benevolent beginnings.

How do you resolve the paradox of being aware but detached, to let things proceed without interference, yet gain an insight and a willful purpose to time your exposure at the crucial moment of your seeing the possibilities.

Being present without pushing, pulling and over thinking but just being there and ready to make an image through connection not domination.

Detached but connected to the rhythmic currents moving through the beauty of nature and its importance to our mental health.

If we only take from nature and do nothing to give back to nature, we are missing a true commitment to openly interact with it as a subject of intense importance to our creative outlook.

But even further we will never assume a role of conversion from destruction to cooperation not only with nature but with our fellow human beings and our foundation for survival is in peril.

If we assume we are gods of some sort, then we have abandoned the the right of passage beyond this earthly paradise.  If we think we are going to be anointed by a benevolent god for our destruction of our earthly home then we are not only delusional but blasphemers to god's purpose.

If all we do with our brain is organize, categorize and institutionalize our responses to an outer reality then we are becoming herded beasts afraid of our own inner purpose.  We are beholden to the corruption of money and power who's only return is more greed and abuse of our civic duty too protect mother nature from its destruction.

The force of external distractions work hard to disrupt our inner insights by creating infinite barriers to self realization.

Place and time dictate our very life and it's goals. We are given our time in this present moment to become more than a collector of things.  If we allow corporate media to commercialize our lives than it will further fragment us into colorful cloth easily changed and transformed into the next greatest product.

Your inside force is being channeled by paths of external manipulation, as if social media was a cure all for one's constant angst at the new order of power and greed. We are expressing this doubt and confusion by shrivelling up our need to be ourselves and end up following the herded masses to a corral of complacency with little demanded and thus living our future in a poverty of mind and matter.

We live in this new era of instant knowledge threw hand held devices.  But this knowledge is not your expressions but the elites propaganda of their desires and destructive controls over a population getting get fed up with the shallowness of our commons being privatized for money.

It is better to express yourself as who you are and not as a character created through social media, where everybody is looking for instant approval.  Approval is your own inner self creating images with willful purpose.

You must fight through created barriers of doubt and confusion that hinder your ability to manifest your original internal landscape.

What if I leave myself in it's narrow view of this world, would I know the empty body left behind.

We all want to be somewhere else and not present in our now moments.  This constant drum beat to move on, never landing on something of interest for more than a few seconds is the new skipping stone life by which we never go to shore and stand in our own shoes but are conned to enter swift currents that we can't control and will never be satisfied with, where these rushing waters take us away form our true purpose and force us to live a shadow life of ourselves.

Our knowledge base is shrinking into a reluctance to seek beyond the cliches created by ad men and dig deeper into the substance of our lives and where you want to be and not where corporate media wants to put you by stereotyping your purpose as foolish and always asking where is the profit. Stick with your own intuitions and transcend the shallow representation of humanity that corporate media wants you to believe.








Saturday, November 5, 2016

October 23, 2016

Kierkegaard (1854), "With the daguerreotype everyone will be able to have their portrait taken- formerly it was only the prominent; and at the same time everything is being done to make us all look exactly the same-so that we shall only need one portrait."

Social media does not connect, it separates us from each other.  It puts a barrier between friends and family and reduces one on one interaction.  With these hand held devices we begin the slow retreat into ourselves and lose the necessary connection to the external gifts of nature.

Social media is a created facade of interacting with reality whereby we engage in surface reactions to a deeper cosmology. Displaying our lives as a model of joyous shallowness.  All social media is a tool to sell to comatose consumers.

Instead of enhancing discussion and vital interaction between real people and ideas it reduces the intent of the discussions to an underlining purpose of extortion and trickery to get the herd to buy their products.

When we interact now we don't have to see and be present with whom we are interacting with.

We don't know what this present time means in our interaction to see and respond to a real live person's behavior, his mood and his frustration in living in this cocoon of information that doesn't begin to address the slow darkening, muddying the waters of the human species.

We text, we view, we post and we believe this is interaction now with another live human being.  We are putting our faith in a technology that doesn't care about us and doesn't want us to live in the present. Any post sent out to the vast universe of frozen eyes perpetually looking at a screen is a past moment.  It was repeated and repeated as if this past moment uploaded onto social media networks of vendor is a rapture of live moments.  By doing this we are constantly being reminded of the growing canyon between a connected life and a disconnected one. Our past becoming our present and our future undermined by an insistent call to consume.

Being willfully present means you are connecting with your surroundings and are reaching out to subjects that appear in your visual language.  The bigger your vocabulary the bigger your resources for making great imagery.

When conversations begin now it is not verbal but electronic, a silence dimmed to understand the visual as an all encompassing fact or truth. This screen we are mesmerized with reduces our ability to verbalize and communicate our own views on subjects that need to be scrutinized.

How can we speak openly with our close friends if we continue to view media as our friends and not our beginning decline in human interaction.

How do we speak openly with each other if in the back of our minds is the very real possibility that someone will post our thoughts online, ready or not.

Our vocabulary is being shortened to pics and symbols that mean what we want to say.  These symbols and pics diminish who we are and our place in the network of life. We are being abandoned for a higher cleaner intelligence that will mold us all into a herd conformity of homogenized look alikes. These artificial intelligences need us corralled for ease of communication and the messy by products of individuality.

The computer mind will only deal with the present and the future.  The past is not nostalgic but imperfect.  Thus it will want to have us all live, a look alike life, of 1's and 0's.  The past will be a creation of the present turned to promote the new future of working gnats.

Relying more and more on an outside collective mind for answers and opinions we run the real possibility that we will not only lose our individuality but also our future happiness.

When you look up something now is it a partial truth bent to an advertising purpose to keep us complacent in questioning our growing fascist existence.

Our conscious mind and our unconscious mind is being moved away from intimacy to entertainment.
To a buying mentality to keep pace with the shortened lives of purpose and closeness with our family and friends.

Herded by the need to be seen in this Hollywood production of life this bombardment of superficial details erode our ability to step back and redeem our lives through hard work and self control.

The herded pen tightly squeezed into stereotypes and then acknowledged not by your unique perspective but by your likes and dislikes on a corporate media site. Then sold consumer products that don't solve any of the growing deeper problems that are festering on a wishful doomsday Dr Strange Love movie set.  We are prodded and stimulated relentlessly to buy at any cost products that will not help our ability to survive but destroy it.












Sunday, October 16, 2016

October 16, 2016

Marc Riboud, "Taking pictures is savoring life intensely, ever hundredth of a second."

This haze of doubt and anxiety interferes with you living in your present moments.

Perceptual conformity through learned approaches to organize our external reality.  Your brain molded in a standard of a collective control.  When we react to external stimulus our brains search for a clear path of understanding to project on the external subject.  We interpret our world as either safe or dangerous.  Control over nature is only a control over fear.  And by relying on ingrained structures of seeing an external subject we limit ourselves to a dutiful life of stereotyping new and life enhancing experiences.

If you can break through this window with its blinds narrow slits of an approved way of seeing life then you will open up your view point and create a new visual horizon of visual content and new ways to make images of them and words to describe your new intuitive visual designs.

There is so much bombardment of information delivered to us in overwhelming amounts it creates a filtering system in our consciousness to judge quickly to ignore and then retreat to what we deem safe and secure in our singular perspective.  We like the warm calmness of judgments so we don't have to think outside our structured existence.

Thoughts are formally placed strategically for all to use and abuse.  No one can own a thought until that thought enters society as your own unique vision.  Whether it is words, images, paintings, sculptures etc... Once your thoughts are manifested then there is a little thing called copyright.

But until then if a thought feels right and it fits your daily needs make it yours.  Try on other thoughts always loosening your grip on a narrow perspective.  There are bright colored thoughts tailored for fun.

Racks and racks of thoughts to put on.  Dark, moody thoughts that can deter you from experiencing a connection with a new subject. Your perspective needs to be in tune to infinite choice.  Don't get uptight with over thinking everything. Relax, prepare and let go!

Do internal thoughts create feelings or do feelings create thoughts?  Do we get thoughts as reaction to external stimulus? Could it be simultaneous?  If you see something that doesn't fit your structured sight filters then do you automatically say no and then a feeling of calmness appears? Because you have denied access to a new thought or feeling that might create anxiety and worry of what to do now.  This feeling only lasts as long as you try and hold on to your past decisions but once you change your minds outlook the fears will dissolve.

We live in cubicles not of our own making.  We examine life through a media lens that gives us what we think we want to hear.

We are tame beasts of burden.  Our species is falling into a spiral of selfish persona's.  We are not together when we have social media separating us from our neighbors.  Yes, we are individuals but we are linked with everyone, it is called the human race.  Don't let a selfish ego determine your fate.  Open up to the universal.

Don't let media dull your senses.  Stop waiting to be told what to think and view.  It seems now all we do is receive select information from corporate media and we assume that that is the truth.  Seek your own truth.  Don't let corporate media tell you what to think.

Your mind thrives on balance both visually and emotionally.  If there is a disruption in the force of balance then anxiety and fear emerge.  And it is a question of flight or fight.  In today's culture of hand held devices complacency is becoming the new internal instinct.

We seem to relish in the past moments to justify our inability to move ahead.  We have to begin creating imagery from our own personal history.  Not a history given to us through generations of unquestioned behavior by the lords of money.

We have an intuitive attraction to the external stimulus in our earlier lives.  As we mature we lose our connection to the outer world and life takes us on it's own ride not our intended journey.

We begin to retreat away from the chaos of infinite space and time and close down our hearts for a safe structure of money and religion. As we build onto these limiting structures of illusions we create a canyon between our inner purpose and the outer flow of nature.  We lose fluidity of thought and action and our individual power is diminished for a TV dinner life of prepared responses to our changing world.

We have now memorized the names of things even though our lives are not as we were and neither are the objects you once defined.  You have cemented your eyes to one perspective which never allows you to feel your inner desires to make changes and attract your true self to become visible under your skin.  You have followed the standard walk of a constrained life and reduced your senses to the conformity of other visions of what life is with more power to control you and your fearful stasis.

We need to regain our own vision of awareness that doesn't allow fruitless acceptance of stereotypes.

We have internalized the structure of other's forms of behavior and sight and accepted the life as a casual historical story easily changed to fit the suffocating adherence to someone else's demands and through their narrow perceptions we destroy the very paradise that surrounds us. If we could only open our eyes and truly see beyond our filtered perceptions.

Your true calling is like a train speeding by on a track and we are expected to jump on and ride it to our true destination.  The problem is that we don't recognize the train as our true calling and we are afraid to jump and now we sit at the station waiting our whole lives to catch that train again. If you call for that train it will return again and again.

Photography can release your inner vision and take you to places you can only dream of.  Don't dream your future, make your future.  Flow in time and in your special space and accept your choices as necessary to get you further to the open arms of life and image creation.










Sunday, October 2, 2016


October 2, 2016

Susan Sontag, "but essentially the camera makes everyone a tourist in other people's reality, and eventually one's own. When we are afraid we shoot but when we are nostalgic we take pictures."

A loss of wonder, old eyes closed, can't take in the whole scene only a narrow perspective.

Approaching a subject through mental selective focus before you even sense the scene destroys connectivity and lessens the chance for a meaningful image.

Photography can become similar to a writer who doesn’t live his life but settles for words detailing his experiences and forgets that these details taken individually are moments of his life and what he has done and not done. 

These snap shots are only fragments of a life, parceled out in an objective voice and destroys the cohesive wholeness of the life your are living.

Living these details is less important than writing them down for others.  The people reading these words reap benefit from your objective self that can inspire them to listen to their own inner voice and express their unique vision.  

While you the originator, of their momentum, observe yourself every second of the day, ready to post anything and everything to the social media sites and add to the banal overflow of unnecessary trivia that now has replaced conversation about who we are and who we want to become.  

Photography today is embarrassing and vulgar.  Why do we accept the human predicament as a photo op?  Instead of a meaning revelation of the the destructive nature of media intent, to keep us off balance, afraid and living in anxiety. 

Desirability is enhanced by distance.  A natural flow of a growing relationship with your subject. Not an overpowering presence that overpowers any connection to your visual idea that has been brewing in your internal consciousness. 

The idea in photography is to connect the dots between you and your subject.  Not alienate your subject by your demanding presence. You need to step back and let the scene evolve and become an interaction between you and the scene and with growing intimacy you bring forth the fruits of your patience.  

Most photographers, and I am guilty of this myself sometimes, is to hide behind a lens as a license to barge into a scene and snap away and then leave without ever really seeing what was going on and missing the true moment with your back turned, moving onto the next exploitation of your next experience.

A photographer that has purpose will make images of himself objectified in the landscape he has been intuitively drawn to. With purpose you expose yourself through the details that combine to create the final image of the scene.

Your created image is a document of the power of being present, interacting with the scene on a personal level and as a human being, attentive to the smallest details that made you stop and look in the first place.

Are your barriers to seeing and living an open life a simple attachment of fear to an action?

Action contains in it a responsibility and new actions contain a sense of bewilderment, a sense you are moving out of your past shell and into a bigger world of oppressive information that you will have to sort through in order to focus your attention on your relationship with nature that is growing. And this focus is a self realization that can be scary at first.

Anxiety is habit, a continuation of your childhood defeats. This feeling of anxiety limits your ability to communicate with the scene. You must focus on the good things that brought you here. If you approach the scene in fear, your ability to express the growing connection you are having with the subject can be broken.

Honestly, we all live in constant anxiety but you have to will yourself, through the gift of photography, to allow yourself a safe place to explore your inner workings that are connecting you to a scene that has your attention. 

The ability to explore a scene even in trepidation shows your inner strength and each new scene will get easier to relate to as you control and ignore your anxiety on your way to bridging inner and outer realities.

Fearing life and not embarking on it. 


Go out and just look at the beauty that exists in every footstep you take.  Act responsibly but do not get overwhelmed by the negative energy that continuously surface through your past memories and present fears.  You must act with openness and purpose as you begin to find new paths that will move you to subjects that once seemed nonexistent but now communicate to your very soul.




Sunday, September 18, 2016

September 3, 2016

George Tice, "As I progressed further with my project, it became obvious that it was really unimportant where I chose to photograph."

This need to fill our lives with anything other than ourselves is the ultimate existential experience.  Many have no understanding of why they feel this overwhelming anxiety and fear. Being alone in the universe with your actions dictating your life's progress is a great responsibility. We all look for distractions, the very reason we are not whole in our individuality.  Instead we are fragmented into many pieces and many visions of our living without responsibility.  We ignore the facts of this reality.  It is in constant flux and you cannot control your environment but you can move with it and glimpse into the dark manipulations we are being constantly bombarded with.

When making photos I lose my sense of time and I focus on my relationship with my subject and in these gifts of connection I do sometimes come away feeling whole and at peace.

When you reach the outskirts of the human potential then you must come back to your own individuality.  This none stop promotion of gadgets and games that can distract us from the real issues facing our lives and our planet is the work of con-men.

You must face yourself in the barren wasteland of the lies that are spreading over us and becoming barriers, structures of someone else's demands on our very existence.

Are you moving forward from a position of strength that will add to this world some goodness and tip the scale to honesty with purpose.

We can't sit still and just be. We must let go of the constant judging and feelings of helplessness. And through that letting go we begin to flow with nature not as separate but as one.  And in that realization one can find image creation a way into yourself and into nature, to begin to find your momentum to create images with purpose and meaning for your growing freedom from the construct of conditioning in a world of materialistic greed and the abandonment of human values.

Knowing yourself and your place (timeline) in the constant pushing and shoving of our external existence helps you overcome the natural tendency in humans to simplify your reaction to stimulus from outside forces. We want to eliminate the stress of reflection and pursuit of truth.  These are hard fought battles between the pursuit of your reality and the conditioning from the collective media mind.

We are becoming vagabonds in our own life.  Watching objectively a life that is not ours anymore.  But now only a reflection on a hand held device.

Self is now a product, posed for the camera to perfect your image and status.  The more tweets you get on any given day is your belief in your actions.

Nature, the external world is a natural force that acts in its own ways without or with you.  It just is.

As we watch our lives move behind us, getting further and further away from our original direction we are being put on a path dictated to us and not for our own fulfillment but the feeding of illusionary wealth as the planet dies. This lessens our will to pursue our individual expressions of our internal wealth of ideas and connections with others.

To explore nature unhindered without the structural conformity that is necessary to keep the populace in check is scary.  So many choices waiting for you, so many paths beckoning you toward them.  It can be overwhelming.

The way forward is not by ego but empathy and purpose through image creation.
Not settling for a quick snap shot.  This obsession with movement, of continually putting pressure on yourself to be all and see all is a wicked fear of facing yourself.  It is a timeline of death expectations and in this fear you settle for a fast paced snap shot, shooting away your life, as if by taking that quick glance at the world we have somehow captured it and now have corralled the external into a tidy photograph that now can be controlled.

Listen to your inner voice.  Recognize your need to dig deeper into your motives of escaping the battle between you and the man made outer chaos. Break through these constrictions that disconnect you from the world.  Begin to see the world you have been missing since early childhood.

How can you make images if all you do all day is constantly change lanes.  Never exploring further than a cursory advance toward change and then right back to your old habits of denial.

Becoming your passion breaks the structural limits placed directly in your path for a purpose.  To keep you guessing, never able to see beyond the gray wall.























Saturday, August 27, 2016

August 27, 2016

Aaron Siskind, " We look at the world and see what we have learned to believe is there.  We have been conditioned to expect...but, as photographers, we must learn to relax our beliefs."

Displacement of purpose, the retreat to create a different reality is the purpose of the the new social media propaganda.  The media sites are our new home of expression without real human contact. A distraction from your necessary concerns.

Photographs exploit this need in us to use our imagination to create new selves (other worlds) beyond our short existence.  This wanting to be seen, heard and appreciated is a constant drumbeat of life's illusionary mystery.

Imposing your will on the landscape is a constant battle to control the media of external representation.  This need for humans to take charge over nature is instinctive.

To manifest your deeper purpose we must let go of the trivia of ego.  We must let go the need to project words on the external flux of space and time.  You could spend your whole life trying to rule outcomes of your behavior even thinking that you are in charge of your life and then bang something happens out of the blue and dislodges you from your perfect timing.  You can't limit the transitions with stubborn will but learn to accept your journey as your necessary path taken.

The acceptance is the internal fight to accept your place as an ever changing struggle to become more. No one should acquiesce to the dull throb of endless constraint.

You must have a strong vision to get the image you have seen in your mind but haven't been able to capture it.  This doesn't mean you limit your vision to just one particular object but you open your mind to the multiplicity of manifested subjects calling your name..

It is a battle of wills to push through the trilogy of defeat,  accepting less, taking the easy path, allowing the external world to create defeat even before the attempt to start is made.

Stifling oneself with a cascading rain of endless possibilities will confuse your internal purpose.  Your uniqueness needs to be expressed and you have the details already present that will make a clear vision of your inner landscape. You just have to be present and looking.  Not holding a machine in your hand looking down at it as if this was your life blood to the external world.  It is an illusion. You need to be looking up and outward.

In photography your life goal is not already predestined but continually in flux.  It is not prefabricated  through thoughts but is shaped by you as you mature and deepen your relationships with nature.  As you connect more with shaping the external world into an image with power and openness you will begin to break free from the standard conformity of the herd that structures your life's goals.

It is a battle of wills between your vision and the subject you are interested in.  You fight against the light changing, the subject not fitting into your preconceived script, the slowness of your reaction, the impatience not to wait but move on and then looking back you see the moment of your vision happen but to late for you to experience it as your own.

In those moments of missed opportunities just enjoy the spectacle and remember patience denies times momentum.

But next time pause your life for a few seconds, minutes or hours and let the image present but unseen reveal itself in all its connective force.

Your vision is to connect first with your subject and then with your viewer.  That relationship you have with your subject is the most important in order to allow serendipity to magnify your patience and relationship with the scene.

Bringing forth a new vision a new perspective that others can appreciate and take part in.

As adults we begin to lose our ability to stay the influx of defining words that limit our experience.

It easier just to ignore the undercurrents of a scene and just accept the surface cascade.  If you had to concentrate on  the scene you might have to dig deeper into yourself and to recognize your connection to the scene in front of you and maybe your fear of what it really reveals.

Children recognize an unblemished perception, a quality in the dialogue being presented, an interaction wanted, a feeling of acceptance of and a reaction to, that is natural and purposeful.  Another words a relationship that is real.